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“As you remember your love one, as God heals your broken hearts (Psalm 147:3), may your cherished memories bring you peace, comfort, and strength to...Read More »
1 of 18 | Posted by: A friend

“Funny how you don"t think about someone for a time and you hear they've passed on. Then you think how they touched you're life. Tom never hesitated...Read More »
2 of 18 | Posted by: Don Swanbon - Ayer, MA

“Tom McClay was pure joy to my life. I am blessed to have known and been dear friends this generous, funny, selfless, inspiring, grateful and positive...Read More »
3 of 18 | Posted by: Katie Leonard - Spring, TX

“Lynn and Laurie, I am so very sorry for the loss of your father. ”
4 of 18 | Posted by: Kimberly (Hammond) Rybak - Hudson

“Rest Peace Tom. God bless all of Tom's family and loved ones.I only met Tom one time but from all appearances and from what Rita told me , he was a...Read More »
5 of 18 | Posted by: Georgina Stafford - Saint John, NB

“Rita and family, So sorry for your loss. Tom was a great guy and will be missed by many. May he rest in peace.Ollie Vilensky ”
6 of 18 | Posted by: Ollie Vilensky - Auburn

“Rita & Family,Sorry for your loss. May all the wonderful memories of your life together be of some comfort to you at such a sad time. Prayers to all...Read More »
7 of 18 | Posted by: Mary Ellen Peloquin - Lancaster, MA

“Rita and the entire family,Tom McClay was always there to help and support others, always asking how the other person was doing despite his own...Read More »
8 of 18 | Posted by: A friend

“Roy and Lauri My deepest sympathy in your loss. I have so many memories of Tom in our good old days at Setra. Know that my thoughts and prayers are...Read More »
9 of 18 | Posted by: Bernie Boccia - Milford, MA

“I will always have fond memories of Tom. Such a giving and caring man. Selfless service. Fly with the Angels ”
10 of 18 | Posted by: Laura W - MA - Friend

“Laurie, Roy and family, I am so sorry for your loss. I remember Tom from my early days at Setra. He was a very kind soul. Sincerely,Paula Lamy ”
11 of 18 | Posted by: A friend

“My Heart felt Love to Rita and Family in the loss of Tom, I was blessed to know him and to have been given the gift of his friendship...He will be...Read More »
12 of 18 | Posted by: Dawn Francolini - Marlboro, MA

“Laurie and Roy, I'm sorry for your loss.AMP ”
13 of 18 | Posted by: A friend

“So sorry for your loss ”
14 of 18 | Posted by: Edward Maurice - Fitchburg, MA

“Rita I am so sorry for your loss and so grateful to have met you both so many years ago. Many people were helped by both of you and he will be missed...Read More »
15 of 18 | Posted by: Gwen Tynes - Hopkinton, MA

“My deepest sympathy to Tom's family.I was a lost soul and TOM was very kind to me. Rest In Peace TOM and know how very great full of you I will...Read More »
16 of 18 | Posted by: Maureen Clancy - Clinton, MA

“Laurie, Roy, and Family My deepest sympathy for your loss My thoughts are with you during this difficult time ”
17 of 18 | Posted by: Steve Bangs

“Laurie, Roy & Family,Our thoughts are with you all at this sad time, we are so sorry about your Dad's passing. Sending lots of prayers to you.~Love...Read More »
18 of 18 | Posted by: Andrea McAuliffe - Northborough, MA


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Thomas R. McClay, 78, of Marlborough, MA, died peacefully Thursday, June 20, 2019 at Marlborough Hospital, surrounded by his loving family.
Born in Chelsea, MA, he was the son of the late Leslie and Mary (Shanlie) McClay and the husband of Rita (Bouvier) Gardiner.
He enlisted in the US Navy in 1961 and was assigned to the Airborne Early Warning Squadron 13.
Prior to his retirement, Tom worked at Setra Systems in Boxborough, MA for over 30 years.
Tom had 32 years of sobriety and was known as Captain Gratitude. He was always willing to extend a helping hand to anyone who needed it, right up until the end of his journey.
He enjoyed playing Texas Hold'em and participating in game night with his family.
Besides his wife, he is survived by his daughters, Lynn-Marie McClay of Berlin, MA, and Laurie and her husband Roy Whitten of Marlborough, MA, his step-children, Cindy D'Amico and her husband David of Marlborough, MA, Paula Bonina and her husband Bob of Marlborough, MA, Deborah O'Connor of Florida, David Gardiner and his wife Ami of S. Hadley, MA, Glenn Gardiner and his wife Laurel of W. Boylston, MA, and his sister, Mary Jones. He is also survived by his granddaughter, Angela McClay and step-grandchildren; Celina D'Amico, David, Abbey, Ben, Alex, Ryan, Shane, Ashley, Joshua, Justin, Nicole, Joey, Jett and many nieces and nephews. He was the brother of the late George, Dennis, Leslie and Billy McClay.
Visiting hours will be held on Sunday, June 30, 2019 from 2-4 pm at the Slattery Funeral Home Inc., 40 Pleasant St., Marlborough, followed by a Memorial Observance at 4:00 pm at the funeral home.
Donations may be made to ARC-Marlborough, 33 Main St., Marlborough, MA 01752 www.theaddictionreferralcenter.com